Evolution

Evolution

This blog will be four years old next month. Honestly, I can’t believe it. I didn’t expect it to last four months, but here I am.

When I started The Daily Snark I wanted to create a fun place to snark about life and pop culture. I wanted to revel in the absurdity. This was going to be a place where I could escape to and just laugh. It felt safe.

As I got more comfortable with being online, I started to reveal a little more of myself—who I am, what I do, what I want, what’s going on in my life. It’s been a little like the hokey pokey, though—I’d put my right foot in, then I’d take it out, unsure if I wanted to jump in and shake it all about.

I was still trying to keep it light and funny. I was trying to make that my niche (raise your hand if you hate that word as much as I do).

But it wasn’t easy to maintain that.

Every so often I’d feel compelled to write something more meaningful, deal with issues that were still raw with me. I’d hit “Publish” and then I’d retreat, afraid of what I put out there. Afraid to own my feelings. Afraid of judgment.

Then I’d sneak back with something light and fluffy and try to pretend that nothing ever happened.

And something weird started to happen. I started to drift away from the light and fluffy concoctions and have tried to write more openly.

I’ve changed a lot over the past year or so. It happens I guess. (Growth is good, right?) I’m definitely less sarcastic now than I used to be (although I will always be a snarky bitch to some degree!). That caustic tone usually came from a place of negativity, and it went hand in hand with a lot of complaining (Pity the poor person who’d ask, “Hi. What’s up? How are you?” I’d tell them exactly how I was. In excruciating detail.) That tone was reflected in this blog. Sure the verbal diarrhea felt good for a minute—and it was definitely good for a laugh—but it didn’t actually solve what was bothering me.

Wallowing in misery just begets more misery.

It has taken me a long time to learn that.

Yoga has helped. Immensely.

I have been practicing pretty regularly for about a year, and I feel like I’m in a better place. I’m happier. More content. Less concerned with who has what and why don’t I have that? I’m more focused on what I have and being grateful for it. Because—not to brag—but I’m lucky. I could even use the word “blessed.”

And I think that’s the tone that’s reflected in this blog now.

(Don’t worry—this isn’t a going to become a shiny happy yoga blog, and I haven’t lost my snark completely! I’m still going to rhapsodize about The Real Housewives from time to time!)

So now I’m left with the decision to just move forward with this blog name and ignore the obvious division between content and title, or come up with a new name and forward this url to it.

What would you do?

(PS: If you have any suggestions for titles, I’m totally open to those!)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The One In Which I Write A Rambling Post That Did a Complete 180 Halfway Through

The One In Which I Write A Rambling Post That Did a Complete 180 Halfway Through

Bless me readers for I have sinned. It’s been 17 days since my last blog post. For this an any other sins I may have committed I am truly sorry. If I say an Act of Contrition will you absolve me?

Honest to God, I don’t know what’s wrong with me these days. I really have no excuse other than I’ve been busy. And lazy.

Mostly lazy.

But I’m feeling inspired today. Last night my girlfriend and I went to see the amazing Jenny Lawson, aka The Bloggess, read from her new book Let’s Pretend This Never Happened (A Mostly True Memoir) here in Los Angeles.

At the risk of sounding like a giddy fan girl, she was awesome! She was irreverent, hilarious and extremely generous, taking questions from fans and signing a gagillion books while taking pictures with anyone who asked. We waited in line for about 90 minutes and it was worth the wait.

I’m about halfway through and I simultaneously can’t wait to finish it and am trying to savor it.

Reading her book reminds me what I love about blogging—it’s about men and women laying out their vulnerabilities for everyone to sort through, sharing the blood and guts of life. The feeling of “Oh, I’m not alone after all. There are others like me.” It’s not about judgement; it’s about community. That’s powerful.

There’s a lot of discussion online about whether or not personal blogs are dying. So-called experts say that in order to be successful, bloggers need to have a niche, and I believe too many bloggers buy into that, littering their blogs with reviews and giveaways and sponsored content. Others have put up pretty facades that hide their imperfections and failures because, well, I don’t know why. Fear? Probably.

I just read an article in Entertainment Weekly where Aaron Sorkin, talking about the difference between writing for movies and writing for television, says that TV is “all middle.” In other words, it’s the details, the ongoing story that keeps viewers interested.

It’s the same with personal blogs for me. It’s the quiet moments, the small details, the highs and the lows that we all go through in life that pull me in, keep me riveted and bring me back. It’s about having the courage share our stories—warts and all—with honesty and integrity.

This post went in a completely different direction than I originally intended when I started writing today. I was going to write a happy, funny post about the reading last night, but watching Jenny put it all out there, and have people thank her for that, made me think about what I’m doing in this space. Or not doing.

I’ve had trouble finding my words lately and it’s because of fear. Certain areas of my life feel like a big mess right now and it’s hard for me to share that. I don’t like to admit that I don’t have it all figured out, that I’m as far from figured out as you can get. But if I expect honesty and integrity from others, aren’t I a hypocrite if I don’t reciprocate?

 

 

 

I Blame The Yoga

I Blame The Yoga

Yoga, an ancient but perfect science, deals with the evolution of humanity. This evolution includes all aspects of one’s being, from bodily health to self realization. Yoga means union — the union of body with consciousness and consciousness with the soul. Yoga cultivates the ways of maintaining a balanced attitude in day to day life and endows skill in the performance of one’s actions.” —B.K.S. Iyengar

I joke to Bill that I’m in the throes of a midlife crisis, but I’m not sure that it’s really a joke.

Don’t worry—I’m not about to run out and buy a sports car (already did that one! Heh!), get my boobs done and pull my face so tight I have to blink to move my lips. But in some ways, that would be easier. Ugly, but easier.

This is worse. I’m 42 years old and I can’t decide what I want to be when I grow up. One day I want to return to writing and editing for a living. The next I want to go through a teacher trainer program for yoga. The day after? I’m ready to join the circus or be a ballerina. Since this is 2012, I realize I could do all of those things and the options are overwhelming.

I always figured that I’d be settled at this point in my life. I figured I’d be comfortable in my career, counting down the years until I could comfortably retire and travel the world. And I can still do that. But maybe I don’t want to do the way I am now.

There’s a line in “You’ve Got Mail” where Birdie says to Kathleen, “You are daring to imagine that you could have a different life.”

And that’s how I feel.

I’m imagining a slightly different life and it’s scary and exhilarating and overwhelming.

As new-agey and hippy-dippy as it sounds, practicing yoga has shifted my perspective about what matters to me. My yoga mat is one of the few places I can totally relax and let go and clear my mind of the junk that clutters it throughout the day.

So I blame the yoga for this.

 

 

 

 

Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...