I don’t normally do New Year’s resolutions.
I think there’s something noble and worthy about setting goals for the new year, and New Year’s resolutions can be powerful motivators in life, but too many people, myself included, blithely make vague proclamations about what they hope to accomplish without really thinking about what that means, what they want out of life, and what it will take to make it all happen.
I feel like it sets up my year for failure.
Lately, though, I’ve been thinking more seriously about the new year and what I’d like to accomplish. Sure, I’d like to eat better, work out more, get organized and save money. Those are all worthy and legitimate goals that I do need to work on. But I’m thinking a little bigger. I’m even thinking a little more spiritual. I’d like to do more than just change some habits. I want to change my life. More specifically, I’d like to change how I live my life.
The word transformation has been rolling around in my head quite a bit, and being the Virgo that I am, I’ve been researching what exactly that means. The best description I’ve come across was in an article I found online that said “Transformation has to do with actualizing potential.”
When I think about how I’ve spent the last year (and longer if I’m honest), I’m a little disappointed because I’ve wasted a lot of time and energy on the wrong things, energy that could have been used more productively. It would be fair to say that I’ve squandered my potential. I wasted a lot of time bitching about everything that is “wrong” in my life instead of putting that energy into making my life what I want it to be. I’ve been too passive and it’s time to start being an active participant in my life.
I’ve written about setting intentions this year, but I don’t think I really understood what that meant until recently. Now I’m ready to really embrace that concept and take it a step further.
Here are a few of the things I want to work on this year:
Okay, that was sort of a joke. But not entirely. For me it means I have to find a way to introduce more calm into my life. The stress is killing me, dude.
This will actually be a big one for me this year. Whether it’s writing here or elsewhere or finding other creative outlets, there never seems to be enough time or I never have enough energy to sit down and create. But the reality is, there’s never going to be enough time. I’m going to have to make the time.
Live in the Moment
I’m a big dweller. I can worry about things that have or haven’t happened for hours. Meanwhile, life passes by and I’m not further along than I was before. The past is gone and the future hasn’t happened. I have to learn to be present.
Let Go Of Expectations
I can’t change other people; only myself. Control freak that I am, this is a big one for me. This one is more about relinquishing some of the control that I try to exert over everything to no avail.
Let Go Of Negativity
Or at least minimize it. I know, this blog is called The Daily Snark for a reason. But trust me when I tell you that in my daily life I am the Queen of Negativity. I can’t find something negative in just about any situation and it’s just becoming a fucking bummer.
Be Good To Myself
It probably doesn’t seem like it to those around me, but I tend to put myself last a lot. This year is about making sure I get enough sleep, find time to work out, read or even get a massage. I do much better when I have a little time to myself.
I’m definitely a glass half empty girl. Instead of thinking about what I don’t have (and probably don’t need) I have to remember what I do have—my health, my family and great friends.
Be kinder and gentler to my husband
Last, but not least…
So that’s my preliminary list. I’ll be fleshing out in the coming weeks. I realize my intentions for the new year seem a little, um, lofty? Heady? Arrogant? Believe me—I KNOW. It’s weird to me, too. I’m still working all of this out, though, so bear with me.